You Can Judge A Book By Its Cover (sometimes)
Yes, this is a real book. In fact, it’s also a free book.
I’ve been reading Ed Hurst’s book. And I already feel like I know the guy. In fact, I might know too much about the guy.
In the first chapter, he writes, “The 18th of September 2013 is my 57th birthday. I’m not in the hunt; I’ve been married to the same lady since 1978. I married exceptionally well… “
Then, in the next paragraph, Ed gets honest… very honest. “I can claim a history of total fidelity, but you’ll have to decide for yourself how true that might be. Further, I am at the age and level of exposure to environmental pharmaceuticals that my libido is about gone. It still works somewhat with my wife only because of the vast ocean of trust she has earned. Otherwise, the wiring between my testosterone and my sense of taste in flesh is largely burned out. Not much of anything or anyone turns me on, so to speak.”
Why does he tell us this information? He writes, “This helps to establish me as an objective observer. All I hope to gain is an opportunity for people to peel away the layers of social mythology and find peace.”
And… “I want for Christians in particular to have the best understanding possible for building a solid marriage in this crazy world.”
Ed is quite frank, too: “You’ve seen it: Ostensibly Christian couples who act little different from the general run of the population. God knows we have countless bad marriages in our churches. Still, even the better ones are often little more than just okay.”
And very opinionated: “I blame church leaders. Not just the average pastors and elders, but some of the biggest names are promoting a heathen mythology in place of God’s Word… they promote the very underlying assumptions about reality that makes feminism possible.”
And quite sexist: “What most preachers assume is good moral values still leaves the door wide open for feminine domination in the home and all the attendant problems that come with it. What part of “be submissive” in God’s Word do we not understand?”
And even more sexist: “Western feminist mythology tells women that they have certain characteristics. It tells them they like certain things. Women tend to believe it; they use political pressure to create a social structure catering to that vision of what they are and what they want. Men generally go along with it. It’s false. Not entirely, not on every detail, but in the terms of fundamental expectations it’s bogus. It’s anti-Christian.”
And he writes this: “Men tend to be a little lazy, particularly about enforcing moral boundaries. It requires a bit of indirect prompting, but direct nagging is a guarantee of failure. He is wired to bristle and resist. Rather, she has to devote herself to strengthening him according to his nature. A conspicuous devotion that others can see will provoke him to genuine heroism as much as anything can. Treat him like a hero until he feels the vibes and acts accordingly; a woman has no power to remake her man’s nature. He naturally gets angry if his woman embarrasses him in front of others.”
And then THIS: “[A wife/mother] is ambitious for her children and her household, and left unchecked or unguided, will smother her children with excessive care. Her instincts guide her to seize control of anything she believes will affect the safety and stability of the home environment. But like men, she also has her own entertainment needs. There is a nearly constant need for emotional stimulation from others. Drama is a hard-wired necessity, men. Create good drama for her. Isolation is deadly to a woman much more quickly than to a man. She needs at the very least the company of other women, with whom she can compare notes about all the matters of the nest.”
And then he offers this advice to men: “Guys: Know your mission first. You simply have no business messing with women until you know who you are and what you must do with your life. That means delaying your start when gals your age are raring to go. Don’t be ashamed to come back when you’re ready and “rob the cradle,” but realize it is highly risky most of all because ten years is forever when it comes to cultural trends in the West. She’ll be quite foreign to you unless she’s partly retro. The biggest mistake you’ll make is allowing your hormones to run you off a cliff. Is she hot? Close your eyes and get a hold of yourself. Her beauty doesn’t mean a thing, except that she’ll probably be very hard to get, in one sense or another. The last thing you want to do is advertise your willingness to be a slave by staring like every other drooling loser.”
What the…? This book is a train wreck…
Nothing says knowing stuff about sex than an outstretched arm grabbing the shoulder of a man in a t-shirt folding his arms.
This book is officially in the running for The Englewood Review of Books Worst Christian Book Covers of 2013 - so be sure to swing by the comments section and vote for it: